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April 4, 2012

I posted this one yesterday but as is my luck these days it didnt work so here goes take 2

Ok… Time for part two….

51. Never go to sleep angry CHECK
52. Ask nicely for what you need and want I TRY. MUM SAYS YOU CATCH MORE FLIES WITH HONEY THAN VINEGAR… THO AS A TEEN MY REPLY WAS ALWAYS “why would I want to catch flies”
53. Walk 10,000 steps per day to help your heart Y MAKE MORE EFFORT WITH THIS ONE
54. Do 20 push-ups before speaking in anger PFFT HARDLY
55. Leave work at work I DO TRY BUT IT’S HARD
56. Don’t befriend anyone that isn’t trustworthy RECENT EVENTS HAVE LEFT ME VERY WARY OF ALL PEOPLE AND THEIR INTENTIONS… I AM WORKING TO GET THROUGH IT BUT IM MUCH MORE HESITANT TO GIVE 2nd, 3rd or 4th CHANCES THESE DAYS.
57. Don’t envy others I DON’T ENVY PEOPLE’S POSSESSIONS, RELATIONSHIPS, FINANCIAL STATUS OR APPEARANCE BUT I STRUGGLE NOT TO ENVY PEOPLE WITH KIDS. FROM THE TIME I WAS ABLE TO WALK I ALWAYS THOUGHT ID BE A MOTHER… AND AS IT BECOMES INCRESINGLY LIKELY THAT THIS WILL NOT HAPPEN I DO HAVE MOMENTS OF DESPAIR AND ENVY OVER IT.
58. Have your oil changed CHECK
59. Take vitamin C BEFORE you catch a cold OOPS
60. Don’t work more than 8 hours per day CHECK
61. Weed your garden weekly I WATER IT, DOES THAT COUNT?
62. Wash your car weekly WITH DUST 🙂
63. Have a spring cleaning month every year, and do one room at a time CHECK
64. You don’t need to be best friends with work colleagues, but build respectful partnerships OOOH THIS ONE IS DIFFICULT BUT I’LL TRY HARDER
65. Don’t drink and drive CHECK
66. Don’t look for reasons to be angry or sad, look for reasons to be happy. You’ll always be able to find plenty of each. NEED TO TRY HARDER AT THIS ONE
67. Be friendly with your neighbours CHECK
68. Return emails and phone messages promptly CHECK
69. Schedule in free time CHECK
70. Don’t procrastinate THEN WHEN WOULD I GET MY BAKING DONE?
71. Do what you say you’ll do, when you say you’ll do it CHECK
72. Be more flexible when you’re able to be CHECK
73. Forgive and forget. End of story. IN MOST SCENARIOS I CAN. BUT I AM NOT SURE I CAN EVER FORGIVE HIM FOR WHAT HE DID TO ME… MOSTLY BECAUSE HE PLAYED MY FAMILY AND I FOR FOOLS AND NOONE MESSES WITH MY FAMILY.
74. Break the consumerism habit…put a three month moratorium in place on buying anything not deemed a necessity SWEET JESUS ID DIE
75. Start your diet on September 1, rather than January 1, so that you won’t also have holiday pounds to lose OK SHALL DO :p
76. Take care of any health issues or concerns CHECK
77. Have your tires rotatedCHECK
78. Have your brakes checked CHECK
79. Have your eyes checked *adds to holiday to do list*
80. Don’t let your imagination run away with you NOT GREAT AT THIS ONE
81. Let go of perfection in others CHECK
82. Let go of perfection in yourself CHECK
83. Don’t try to help those that refuse to help themselves CHECK
84. Find a way to reduce your commute to work HAHAHAHA DONE
85. Have an alloted amount of worry time per day/week, that you strictly abide by HMMMM….
86. Drink more water CHECK
87. Eat more salmon EWWW
88. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill HMMM MUST TRY HARDER
89. Wear your hair in a classic, easy to care for style CHECK
90. Finish what you start MOSTLY
91. Wear classic clothes and shoes that never go out of style STYLE? Lol
92. Create a daily routine HAHA YES OK
93. Have a 1, 5, 10 and 20 year plan for your financial and life goals TBA
94. Slow down CHECK
95. Eat out less often CHECK
96. When you ask your husband which outfit looks best, thank him for his answer and wear the one he liked rather than focusing on why he didn’t like the other one PASS
97. Allow your children to grow up PASS
98. Clean out your garage, and donate anything that hasn’t been used in the past year CHECK
99. Stretch every day CHECK
100. If a relationship is over, let it go…. DONE! FROM THE MOMENT HE LEFT I KNEW I NEVER WANTED HIM BACK, SO FROM THEN I STARTED MOVING FORWARD
{Source: Live The Charmed Life} via
PHEW!!! All done

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Reflections…

April 2, 2012

Having re read my posts from 2011 I thought it was a good opportunity to re-examine the list of ways to uncomplicate life.

So here goes…

1. Don’t try to read other people’s minds Not having much success here, thus far
2. Get up 30 minutes earlier so that you don’t rush/get a ticket while driving too fast/have to explain why you’re late/get fired This one is highly unlikely to happen!
3. Get 8 hours of sleep per night so that you think more clearly Getting there slowly
4. Stick to your budget What is a budget?
5. Start saving and investing every week, no matter how little you can spare…No comment
6. Balance your checkbook… hmmmm
7. Don’t try to be friends with everyone. Cultivate closer relationships with fewer people. I am TRYING I swear! 
8. Don’t try to do business with everyone. Identify your target client and take very good care of them. Getting better at this one.
9. Before getting angry, ask yourself if it will really matter in 20 years I tend to react less and think more when I am angry.
10. Focus on being a good person, not on pleasing others Pleasing others is a hard habit to break.
11. Stay home this Saturday, and finish off that nagging chore that you need to finish Oh I am still a procrastinator
12. Kiss and make up MMMM I love kissing
13. Make a weekly menu, and shop for only those items at the market I am getting better at this thanks to my housemate!
14. Ask your grandparents the best way to uncomplicate life, and try it for a month If only it was that easy 😦
15. Fill up your gas tank when it’s half full No choice when you live in the sticks!
16. Don’t drink alcohol when you’re tired, sad or mad CHECK!
17. Pay your bills on time CHECK!
18. Get an annual physical examination  CHECK!
19. Say “I love you” to your significant other and to your children. Studies show that more marriages last, and fewer kids use drugs, when these words are spoken every day.  I tell my family and friends I love them at every opportunity 
20. For just one day, imagine everyone’s intentions are good because most people’s are Im trying!
21. Give away clothes that haven’t been worn in two years CHECK!
22. Throw out clothes that are in disrepair, and can’t be mended CHECK!
23. When you have a conflict with someone, talk it out. Don’t let it turn into more than it is. Again I’m trying!!
24. Know what your priorities are in life, and act as if they are your priorities Must work on this!
25. Tell the truth MOSTLY!
26. Don’t cheat MOSTLY!
27. Don’t steal NEVER DO!
28. If you’re holding on to a ridiculous grudge, let it go I have, tho the hurt is still there 😦
29. Clean your house weekly, so that it doesn’t become too large a chore CHECK! again- thanks to the housemate
30. Do your best at work, or at school MOSTLY!
31. Don’t eat when you aren’t hungry CHECK!
32. Eat when you are hungry CHECK!
33. Be yourself Easier said than done when even you have forgotten who YOU are! But I am giving it go 🙂
34. Say no unapologetically Getting good at this, just have to deal with the subsequent guilt. 
35. Cook simple meals Tonight we had nachos… i think that counts!
36. Don’t try to keep up with the Joneses Never do!
37. Pay off your car before buying a new one Getting there!
38. Organise your desk at the office Hmmm!
39. Change your smoke alarm batteries when the clocks spring forward, and again when they fall back We dont have daylight savings but CHECK!
40. Organise your important paperwork CHECK!
41. Take only half the clothes that you planned to take with you on holiday What holiday?
42. Help your children with their homework every night, and have an open dialogue with their teachers PASS
43. Have white sheets and white towels in children’s rooms/bathrooms, because they’re easily bleached PASS
44. Spend your time with nice people I am trying!
45. Avoid drama Again… I am trying!
46. Don’t text or talk on the phone while driving :S
47. Turn off the television/video games/computer; they’re time consumers No can do!
48. Don’t engage in office politics Hmmm, FAIL!
49. Refuse to gossip, or talk behind other people’s backs Again… fail!
50. Do the dishes right after dinner CHECK!
Ok time for bed… will finish tomorrow 🙂

Wow it’s been …

April 2, 2012

Wow it’s been almost a year since i was here last! And what a year it’s been! More on that another day… For today I’m inspired to answer these questions courtesy of a friend of mine at http://mylifeofchaos.blog.com/

1. What was the last clothing item that you bought? A few boring tshirts

2. If you could stay one age forever, what age would you choose? Late 20’s I think. 

 3. When you say “lol”, are you really laughing? Yes 🙂 

 4. What is the most interesting thing you’ve done in the past year? I could tell you but I’d have to kill you 😉 no… Probably moving to the bush to teach, not usually the career move for someone with 14 years teaching experience and a masters degree. 

5. If you started a business, what would it be? Cake baking/ decorating in a heart beat!!! 

6. Do your friends/ family/ coworkers know about this blog? Not yet! 

7. How long does it take you to write an average blog post? A year 😉 sometimes a few hours sometimes a few days. 

8. How do you keep up with the blogs you follow? Rss feeds mainly

9. What is your bedtime?? I go to bed late like 11ish. Absolutely! (if possible)

10. Introvert or extrovert? On the outside I can seem extroverted but I’m an introvert if the truth be told

11. What is your biggest fear? Never having kids

12. What is the best job you ever had? Manager at an Internet cafe in London… Awesome job, terrible pay

13. Dog person/cat person/both/neither? Both! I love my fur babies

14. If you had $1,000 to spend any way you wanted, what would you do with it? Book a trip somewhere

15. How do you “dress” your toast? Butter and Vegemite…. If I’m feeling nostalgic 

I wait till its cold- just like boarding school

16. How do you feel about snow? I love it!!! It feels so cleansing- like wiping the slate clean. I miss the snow so much! Especially white Christmases. Nothing more beautiful that standing outside a medieval chapel in the BlackForest for midnight mass as the snow softly falls around you!! SIGHHHH!

17. What was the worst job you ever had? Working in the kitchen of the GOLDEN FLEECE in Kojonup… It was over 40 degrees outside but about a thousand degrees in the in air conditioned kitchen

18. What song can you not stop listening to? A Thousand years by Christina Perri and Born to be my Baby by Bon Jovi

19. Love your name or hate it? Hate it! I asked my aunt why the hell she stood by and let me mother give me such a terrible name 🙂

20. How did you choose your blog/twitter handle? My handle I chose because my life always feels crazy and out of control. My blog name I chose during my reflective moments of early 2011

So there you go… Hopefully I’ll be around a little more often now x

An Uncomplicated Life

April 3, 2011

The last week had taken me to the edge! Seriously! I no longer have a love of teaching, I find myself hating every moment of every day. So I made a decision… If i didnt get the internal position I interview for, I would quit and find something I love 🙂

Of course the universe took this as a challenge- I didn’t get the job! A lot of lip service was paid but it is clear to all that I am not going to get anywhere in that school. It is also clear that it is time for a change! I am so scared of change that even when life presented me with the perfect opportunity to find a career in something new, I ran back to my safe zone- the classroom! The place I KNOW!

So, tomorrow I begin the application process and try to remind myself that it is ok to be rejected and that is no reason to give up…

So this all lead me, today, to think of ways to uncomplicate my life. Again the universe was conspiring against me since the first site I “stumbledupon” this evening was a blog by bellaMUMMA in which she refers to a list of 100 ways to Uncomplicate Your Life, that she also stumbled upon!

I hope someone else gets somthign positive out of this like I did 🙂

You see, when we’re born we see the world in an uncomplicated way. We know what we need, and we ask for it. We like nice people, and we don’t like mean people. We sleep when we’re tired, we eat when we’re hungry, and we stop eating when we’re full.
As we grow older, we eat and drink to console ourselves, rather than addressing what’s bothering us. We overwork to avoid close relationships, rather than finding people we can trust to form strong bonds with. We hold grudges, play games, spend more than we make, want things we don’t need, and we get too far away from our basic human needs. In other words, we complicate things.
Here are 100 ways to uncomplicate it…
{perfect inspiration for a Sunday!}
1. Don’t try to read other people’s minds
2. Get up 30 minutes earlier so that you don’t rush/get a ticket while driving too fast/have to explain why you’re late/get fired
3. Get 8 hours of sleep per night so that you think more clearly
4. Stick to your budget
5. Start saving and investing every week, no matter how little you can spare
6. Balance your checkbook
7. Don’t try to be friends with everyone. Cultivate closer relationships with fewer people.
8. Don’t try to do business with everyone. Identify your target client and take very good care of them.
9. Before getting angry, ask yourself if it will really matter in 20 years
10. Focus on being a good person, not on pleasing others
11. Stay home this Saturday, and finish off that nagging chore that you need to finish
12. Kiss and make up
13. Make a weekly menu, and shop for only those items at the market
14. Ask your grandparents the best way to uncomplicate life, and try it for a month
15. Fill up your gas tank when it’s half full
16. Don’t drink alcohol when you’re tired, sad or mad
17. Pay your bills on time
18. Get an annual physical examination
19. Say “I love you” to your significant other and to your children. Studies show that more marriages last, and fewer kids use drugs, when these words are spoken every day.
20. For just one day, imagine everyone’s intentions are good because most people’s are
21. Give away clothes that haven’t been worn in two years
22. Throw out clothes that are in disrepair, and can’t be mended
23. When you have a conflict with someone, talk it out. Don’t let it turn into more than it is.
24. Know what your priorities are in life, and act as if they are your priorities
25. Tell the truth
26. Don’t cheat
27. Don’t steal
28. If you’re holding on to a ridiculous grudge, let it go
29. Clean your house weekly, so that it doesn’t become too large a chore
30. Do your best at work, or at school
31. Don’t eat when you aren’t hungry
32. Eat when you are hungry
33. Be yourself
34. Say no unapologetically
35. Cook simple meals
36. Don’t try to keep up with the Joneses
37. Pay off your car before buying a new one
38. Organise your desk at the office
39. Change your smoke alarm batteries when the clocks spring forward, and again when they fall back
40. Organise your important paperwork
41. Take only half the clothes that you planned to take with you on holiday
42. Help your children with their homework every night, and have an open dialogue with their teachers
43. Have white sheets and white towels in children’s rooms/bathrooms, because they’re easily bleached
44. Spend your time with nice people
45. Avoid drama
46. Don’t text or talk on the phone while driving
47. Turn off the television/video games/computer; they’re time consumers
48. Don’t engage in office politics
49. Refuse to gossip, or talk behind other people’s backs
50. Do the dishes right after dinner
51. Never go to sleep angry
52. Ask nicely for what you need and want
53. Walk 10,000 steps per day to help your heart
54. Do 20 push-ups before speaking in anger
55. Leave work at work
56. Don’t befriend anyone that isn’t trustworthy
57. Don’t envy others
58. Have your oil changed
59. Take vitamin C BEFORE you catch a cold
60. Don’t work more than 8 hours per day
61. Weed your garden weekly
62. Wash your car weekly
63. Have a spring cleaning month every year, and do one room at a time
64. You don’t need to be best friends with work colleagues, but build respectful partnerships
65. Don’t drink and drive
66. Don’t look for reasons to be angry or sad, look for reasons to be happy. You’ll always be able to find plenty of each.
67. Be friendly with your neighbours
68. Return emails and phone messages promptly
69. Schedule in free time
70. Don’t procrastinate
71. Do what you say you’ll do, when you say you’ll do it
72. Be more flexible when you’re able to be
73. Forgive and forget. End of story.
74. Break the consumerism habit…put a three month moratorium in place on buying anything not deemed a necessity
75. Start your diet on September 1, rather than January 1, so that you won’t also have holiday pounds to lose
76. Take care of any health issues or concerns
77. Have your tires rotated
78. Have your brakes checked
79. Have your eyes checked
80. Don’t let your imagination run away with you
81. Let go of perfection in others
82. Let go of perfection in yourself
83. Don’t try to help those that refuse to help themselves
84. Find a way to reduce your commute to work
85. Have an alloted amount of worry time per day/week, that you strictly abide by
86. Drink more water
87. Eat more salmon
88. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill
89. Wear your hair in a classic, easy to care for style
90. Finish what you start
91. Wear classic clothes and shoes that never go out of style
92. Create a daily routine
93. Have a 1, 5, 10 and 20 year plan for your financial and life goals
94. Slow down
95. Eat out less often
96. When you ask your husband which outfit looks best, thank him for his answer and wear the one he liked rather than focusing on why he didn’t like the other one
97. Allow your children to grow up
98. Clean out your garage, and donate anything that hasn’t been used in the past year
99. Stretch every day
100. If a relationship is over, let it go
{Source: Live The Charmed Life} via
100 ways to UNCOMPLICATE YOUR LIFE

To regret or not to regret… that is the question.

March 27, 2011

I have no regrets! No seriously! Yes I have done some stupid, dangerous, hurtful, immature and ridiculous things. I have made some bad, bad decisions that I never want to repeat, but I regret them? Nope not at all.

Recently I was the target of some nasty name calling on a message board that I have been a member of for at least 5 years. At first I was told that I am shallow and thoughtless, and that a mature person would have regrets. I, of course, disagreed. One of the quotes I try to apply to my life is by Asha Tyson who said

“Your journey has molded you for your greater good, and it was exactly what it need to be. Don’t think that you’ve lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. and now is right on time”.

Reflecting on this has often reminded me that I would not be the person I am today with out the decisions I made in the past.  Coincidentally, the same day I saw a facebook update from Alex Lickerman’s Happiness in the World entitled “The Faulty Premise of Regret” (see my BlogRoll for a link). As always, Alex makes some very valid and thought provoking comments. Towards the end of the article he says

“Had you made that other choice, how could you really know that, as a result of several subsequent choices and events, you wouldn’t be suffering even more?  You may pine for the life you think you’ve left unlived, but that life not only never existed, it almost certainly wouldn’t have existed the way you imagine it.  Think about your life today:  does it exist now as you once predicted it would?”

Does it [my life] exist now as [I] once predicted it would?

Well… ummm… HELL NO!!! I really don’t remember much from my early childhood but as a teenager I knew I was going to leave school and take over the family farm, stuff my brother this was the 90s and I was the eldest. A monumental family feud and the following  move from the farm put an end to that dream.

After failing high school (which of course I don’t regret) I moved to Germany as an aupair… my plan for my life then was to travel forever and marry some gorgeous european man. But ultimately, in those days of letters and a weekly phone call, I came home after a year to study to become a teacher. Did I plan to become a teacher? Nope, it just kinda happened.

While at uni I met my first husband, my second ever boyfriend (good little Catholic girl I was) we built a house, got married and were married for about 7 years. My dream then was to be promoted in my job and then start a family! It didn’t happen. I had a breakdown and we got divorced. I don’t regret marrying him, I loved him very much and I still do. I’m just not in love with him. It was sad, I hurt him so badly and unnecessarily but that can’t be changed, I can’t go back and do it again so I just move on and try to make better decisions in the future.

Rather than allow ourselves to wallow in suffering over what might have been, we should strive to remind ourselves the grass only ever seems greener, and that there’s always much to enjoy (and over which to suffer) in any and every circumstance.

So.. No I don’t have regrets, well nothing more than a short term or fleeting expression of sorrow or wishing I’d shut up. Generally I chalk it up to experience and move on! Life is too short to wallow in regret!!

Why?

March 27, 2011

Recently I have been bombarded by “whys”

“Why did you get a tattoo?”

“Why a cherry blossom?”

“Why did you get it on your wrist?”

…and my favourite “WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT???”

Let me start by explaining a little my fascination with cherry blossoms (sakura as they are called in Japanese). I can’t remember where my love of them came from or when but while doing a little research (cheers Google!!) I discovered that in Japanese the cherry blossom represents the fragility of life. It is a blossom that blooms for such a short time that it is likened to life and in admiring the beauty of the shortlived blossom we are encouraged to appreciate and be grateful for our lives. It also serves as a reminder us that, like a cherry blossom, nothing lasts for ever and that like life itself the difficult times can not last forever or in the words of an old proverb “this too shall pass”.

Late last year I toyed with the idea of a tattoo and asked my extremely talented sister to design one specifically for me, which makes it all the more special.

So why did I decided to get it tattooed on my wrist? I am one of those people who gets so caught up in my own dramas and the ins and outs of daily life that I believe that wearing the cherry blossom on my wrist I will have a tangible reminder to stop and take a breath and enjoy my life and be grateful for the good times and to know the bad times wont last.

And the last and, apparently, most important question to people around me- Why would I do it? Well, to be honest… because I can! Dammit this is my life and I am sick of just being someone’s teacher, someone’s colleague, someone’s daughter, someone’s wife! It is MY life and I’m only going to live it once, this is not a dress rehearsal! So yeh, it’s possibly a little irresponsible or immature or whatever but I am happy, truely happy with it and my decision to get what I wanted and where I wanted it!